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Beka's Story...continued

God allowed her to be healed but not in the way we were thinking. On Thursday, April 30, 1998, Beka awoke at 6:30 am, her heart arrested and she fell backwards. Her roommate, Angie, heard her gasp and immediately got up and checked on her . Angie rushed to get the security guard who performed CPR while someone called 911. Emergency rescue came and took over. The problem is that when there are no electrolytes to keep the heart beating, manual pumping of the heart does not send enough blood to the brain to keep it alive. They rushed her to Northwestern Memorial Hospital in Chicago where they worked on her for 45 minutes, restarting her heart 3 times before it stabilized.

We received the call at 6:30 Arizona time that she was in intensive care and then later my husband got the call that there was severe brain damage. The Lord allowed Beka to stay alive until we and her siblings flew to Chicago to be by her side. We had more tests done on her brain the next day, but it confirmed she had only lower brain stem activity. Our family made the incredibly difficult decision to take her off life support on May 1 and that night we began to say good-bye to our precious Beka. We kept the vigil all night until Beka went home to be with her Jesus, at 5:30 a.m. on May 2, 1998.

Since her death, I have claimed the scripture verse of Matthew7:7-8 from the Bible: "Ask, and it shall be given unto you; seek, and you will find; knock and it will be opened to. For everyone who asks receives, and he who seeks finds, and to him who knocks it will be opened". I asked the Lord for answers to Bekaís eating disorder. She was no longer here, but she had left journals from the last couple years of her life of which I am so humbly grateful. This last 6 years has been a journey of healing. Wes and I have committed to finding answers which has resulted in changes in our lives which would never would have happened if Beka had not died. Part of that answer is prevention. Will you listen to Beka?

If you are a person who has engaged in any of the behaviors listed on our "Signs and Symptoms" page, please tell someone and get help! Beka didnít die because she was thin. Beka died from complications from an eating disorder that weakens and destroys your body.

Many times the fears of growing up and life changes can throw people into finding ways to control life. Eating disorders can falsely give a sense that a person is in control or it relieves the anxiety a person may have about certain life situations. Some of those who struggle with eating disorders develop a fear of certain foods or all foods because they are afraid of gaining weight.

Self esteem and significance is wrapped into all of this. The tragedy is that eating disorders can entrap an individual and no one knows when that will occur. Getting well is a process and takes time. There are no quick fixes. That is why we believe prevention is so vital. With knowledge, a young person can make wise decisions and avoid going down that path. Similarly, well informed parents can be alerted to the signs, symptoms and needs of their children.

Thank you for you time in reading this. I pray it helps.

Wes & Diane Stewart
(Beka's parents)



“This morning I read the scripture passage from Psalm 139, which, yes, I’ve read many times before but this prayer and acknowledgment of God still awes me. Here is just part of it – but still, go read the entire passage: 'Oh Lord, you have searched me and known me. You know my sitting down and my rising up. . .'”
--Beka Stewart

Beka writing her name in the sand

(Rebekah writes her name in the sand--and in our hearts forever.)
January 26, 1979 - May 2, 1998

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